My friend, my spouse, my parents, my siblings; my coworkers. We have relations with all of those people. Maybe relations are good, and maybe not so much? Maybe relations with the parents are better than with the siblings? Everyone finds themselves in different situations.
I never had a sibling to have a relationship with. Well, almost. My mother had a stillborn birth when I was 11. I always wanted to have a sister. I think the smothering I received as an only child would have been much less if I had had a sister to share in the drama. But that wasn't meant to be.
How is your relationship with your family members? Yeah, I know, some of them are difficult. We all probably wonder at times why we can't get along. If they would just agree with us, everything would be okay. Right? Unfortunately, life isn't meant to be agreeable. Our family members aren't meant to be agreeable, either. They challenge us to think outside the box. We are tasked to redefine patience. Such lessons we are privileged to learn from our families!
Spouses also challenge us to think outside the box of reasonable choices, as well do our parents. Let's not forget our coworkers. Gee, I think everyone challenges us to some degree to expand our thought processes. And that's a good thing. Why? Because our thinking isn't always the right way. There are options. There is more than one way to make lasagna; more than one way to tie shoe laces; various ways to learn a new language; and more than one way to fold a sheet -- especially a fitted sheet.
The next time your dumb brother-in-law ticks you off, why not take a minute to understand where he is coming from? You may not agree with his take on things, but at least you will have an understanding. Understanding where the other person is coming from who is challenging your thinking can help immeasurably in your relationship. It's kind of like, agree to disagree. There is no harm in not agreeing, just be civil about it.
Love is so important in all of our lives. If we just try to understand the other person and love them, life will be so much easier. Who doesn't want an easier existence? You know, I have found that when we responds with love, it totally disarms the other person. While they anticipate an argument, you don't provide it. Instead, you extend love. Wow! Pulls the rug right out from under their belligerent stance.
Try love this week every time you are challenged and see what happens. I think you will be amazed.
Love and Hugs xoxoxoxo
When asked such a question as are you a follower, you might have the same response as I used to have. No! Frankly, I have discovered as of late that I have been rebellious all of my life, certainly not a follower. I flaunted that I could do a different thing than I was taught, once I had the freedom to do what I chose. I relished in the satisfaction that I could. "See! I'm doing it MY way!"
I chose to take any route but the one I was expected to follow. That was okay when I was a teenager. Teenagers aren't expected to act like they have some maturity because they don't. Life is all experimentation and learning from those experiments. It is natural to rebel until we come to a time where we must decide who we are and what we are going to do with our lives. We have arrived. We are adults.
As adults, we are expected to follow in the footsteps of our parents, our friends, to become productive people in society. We conform. No more flip flops. Now we wear heels to work or suits with a choking piece of fabric around the neck. Some people actually do shovel out their own path and are highly successful in their endeavor to be authentic. That's okay. It really is. Bravo to independent thinking, and having an entrepreneurial mind. But even the independent thinkers need to be a follower sometimes.
I have found that it is wise to be open and receptive to being led by the Holy Spirit. Years ago I would never have made such a remark. But today I can tell you, it makes life so much easier. Casting our burdens on the Holy Spirit relieves us of the stress of everyday life and crucial decisions. We have help. We have a partner. A friend who will not turn their back, but always be present. Supportive. Even through the worst of times.
Yes, I am a follower. I reach out my hand to gain support when I am weak. "Please lead me. Please help me see my way out of this mess." What could be easier than asking to be led? If that is a problem for some, then I have to state, that's the ego talking. That big, fat ego is rearing its ugly head in an attempt to throw you off course. Don't pay attention. Ignore the prodding, just let it all go. If you are a believer, you know what I mean. If you aren't a believer, then just experiment with this idea. You've done plenty of experimenting all of your life, so give it a shot. Turn the problem over to God and see what happens. Life certainly won't get any worse. Trust me, it will blossom into a new beginning.
God Bless You!!
So far, I am feeling very upbeat about 2019. I have projects I am continuing to work on and a few that I haven't attempted yet, but they are on the list!
How is the new year going for you? Might I make a suggestion? Two words: think positive. A long, long time ago I was taught that thoughts are things. This is so very true for everyone, no matter your nationality, gender, religion or cultural upbringing. When we think negative, we attract negative to us. I've seen it over and over again, the negative thoughts enter in and wham--a locomotive of nothing going right roars by. Everything that is touched turns to dust. It's like we put out a curse on our existence. And that is actually what we did to ourselves. We prevented anything positive from entering into our life simply by jumping onto the tracks of negativity. We actually, although unintentionally, created the not-so-nice things happening around us.
When we think positive, we attract positive situations. More importantly, we recognize that something positive is present. Unfortunately, when we think negatively, we are blind to anything positive. We could trip over a positive and not recognize it for what it is. Because we are in a negative frame of mind, we just can't see the good. We have blinders on.
This morning Joel Osteen was talking about being positive. Well, actually he does that every week. But today he was speaking about how we think, and encouraged us to think positive. This wonderful man's message every Sunday morning is that we must strive to live in a positive state of mind. I find his teaching uplifting. I like a positive message. I walk away feeling like I can conquer any problem that comes along.
What earthly good do we gain by thinking negative? Who wants to roll around in the muck and mire? I'd rather roll on clean sheets, frankly. Some years ago I used to teach that when we are presented with a perceived negative event, we are to turn the negative around to the positive. It's simple, when something lousy is happening, turn it around to the positive. When the water faucet breaks, adopt a different perspective. Didn't you want a new fixture for the bathroom anyway? Well, now you can have it. So, you burned the dinner. Now you can out to dinner and be waited on. Your child missed the bus. Oh, well, so now you can go shopping after you drop him off to school. Whatever... You can turn it around to the positive.
There is a saying that practice makes perfect. We have to teach ourselves to think positive. I put up reminder messages on my bathroom mirror for things I want to improve on. THINK POSITIVE has appeared on those reminders frequently. It's a particularly good reminder so that life keeps flowing smoothly. And when it isn't flowing downstream, I just say, turn it around to the positive.
God bless you!!
I know everyone says this, but I can't believe it's 2019. I remember standing in Times Square watching the ball drop as the year 2000 entered our reality. That was 19 years ago!
The big question at this time of year is always, what changes are we going to make? (I will refrain from using the phrase, New Year's Resolutions.) In other words, how are we going to improve ourselves? That question makes me ponder, what was wrong with the old me?
Every year we vow to lose weight, read more, begin exercising, quit smoking (does anyone still do that?), curb our anger problem, and a whole host of other ideas for change. I know the YMCA and other health clubs are seeing a huge increase in attendance. It happens every year in January. Have you seen all the ads on TV regarding diet plans? They are merely responding to the public's desire to change. Who doesn't want to go on a diet at this time of year? I must admit that I have chosen to devote my menu to Keto. Yes, I am on a much needed diet...sigh.
When it comes to our appearance, we are so hard on ourselves. We strive to be perfect, or at least improve. So much pressure we place on our appearance and changing it to look "better." Why do we stress ourselves? I have to ask this question: are we doing this for ourselves or for how others see us? Who are we trying to impress? I would hope we are doing these changes for us.
I remember hearing how Judy Garland, as a child, was told to lose weight. This caused her great angst into her adult years. She had to lose weight, change her appearance, for someone else. That's just wrong, especially when she wasn't even fat. As for losing weight and exercising, it is true that we all need to maintain a decent weight and move our bodies so we remain healthy--or regain our health. That's simply common sense and a proper endeavor for all of us. But not to please someone else.
If you find yourself reading this and thinking, I need to join the group and lose weight, do it for the right reasons. And if you don't feel inspired until May of 2019 to lose weight, so be it. Most people who start out the year all fired up to lose weight and exercise find themselves eating a Cinnabon by mid February. And not exercising. But we should see the rare few in March who are still jogging down the road of healthy eating as inspirational. They set an admirable goal and are pursuing it.
In the year 2019, my hope for you is to come to know that you are a child of God, and He loves you no matter what. Fluffy or skinny, it doesn't matter. You are loved. Breathe it in and feel that love. When you blow your diet, and we all do, just remember that you are still lovable, and get back to it the next day. No big deal.
(c) 2018, Elizabeth Owens