I chose to take any route but the one I was expected to follow. That was okay when I was a teenager. Teenagers aren't expected to act like they have some maturity because they don't. Life is all experimentation and learning from those experiments. It is natural to rebel until we come to a time where we must decide who we are and what we are going to do with our lives. We have arrived. We are adults.
As adults, we are expected to follow in the footsteps of our parents, our friends, to become productive people in society. We conform. No more flip flops. Now we wear heels to work or suits with a choking piece of fabric around the neck. Some people actually do shovel out their own path and are highly successful in their endeavor to be authentic. That's okay. It really is. Bravo to independent thinking, and having an entrepreneurial mind. But even the independent thinkers need to be a follower sometimes.
I have found that it is wise to be open and receptive to being led by the Holy Spirit. Years ago I would never have made such a remark. But today I can tell you, it makes life so much easier. Casting our burdens on the Holy Spirit relieves us of the stress of everyday life and crucial decisions. We have help. We have a partner. A friend who will not turn their back, but always be present. Supportive. Even through the worst of times.
Yes, I am a follower. I reach out my hand to gain support when I am weak. "Please lead me. Please help me see my way out of this mess." What could be easier than asking to be led? If that is a problem for some, then I have to state, that's the ego talking. That big, fat ego is rearing its ugly head in an attempt to throw you off course. Don't pay attention. Ignore the prodding, just let it all go. If you are a believer, you know what I mean. If you aren't a believer, then just experiment with this idea. You've done plenty of experimenting all of your life, so give it a shot. Turn the problem over to God and see what happens. Life certainly won't get any worse. Trust me, it will blossom into a new beginning.
God Bless You!!