My friend, my spouse, my parents, my siblings; my coworkers. We have relations with all of those people. Maybe relations are good, and maybe not so much? Maybe relations with the parents are better than with the siblings? Everyone finds themselves in different situations.
I never had a sibling to have a relationship with. Well, almost. My mother had a stillborn birth when I was 11. I always wanted to have a sister. I think the smothering I received as an only child would have been much less if I had had a sister to share in the drama. But that wasn't meant to be.
How is your relationship with your family members? Yeah, I know, some of them are difficult. We all probably wonder at times why we can't get along. If they would just agree with us, everything would be okay. Right? Unfortunately, life isn't meant to be agreeable. Our family members aren't meant to be agreeable, either. They challenge us to think outside the box. We are tasked to redefine patience. Such lessons we are privileged to learn from our families!
Spouses also challenge us to think outside the box of reasonable choices, as well do our parents. Let's not forget our coworkers. Gee, I think everyone challenges us to some degree to expand our thought processes. And that's a good thing. Why? Because our thinking isn't always the right way. There are options. There is more than one way to make lasagna; more than one way to tie shoe laces; various ways to learn a new language; and more than one way to fold a sheet -- especially a fitted sheet.
The next time your dumb brother-in-law ticks you off, why not take a minute to understand where he is coming from? You may not agree with his take on things, but at least you will have an understanding. Understanding where the other person is coming from who is challenging your thinking can help immeasurably in your relationship. It's kind of like, agree to disagree. There is no harm in not agreeing, just be civil about it.
Love is so important in all of our lives. If we just try to understand the other person and love them, life will be so much easier. Who doesn't want an easier existence? You know, I have found that when we responds with love, it totally disarms the other person. While they anticipate an argument, you don't provide it. Instead, you extend love. Wow! Pulls the rug right out from under their belligerent stance.
Try love this week every time you are challenged and see what happens. I think you will be amazed.
Love and Hugs xoxoxoxo
(c) 2018, Elizabeth Owens